But it does. Contraceptives have not led people to prudent sexual activity. They are no longer bound to one another. Contraceptives intensify the desire for pleasure and so it becomes the only aim of sex. Surely no one believes contraceptives, because they are legal, are never refused or always work. Condoms break, a tempted couple doesn’t use them, a woman forgets to take a pill, and so on. Why must you imagine things work out precisely as optimists have planned.
Because to believe contrariwise would shatter their worldview of pre-planned perfection.
You’re an optimist if you think we’re all not having sex till we’re married. Just saying, that’s not happening. Not at all. Apparently it has not worked out precisely as you have planned.
I don’t think it’s necessary to construct weightofemptiness’s argument as wholly anti-contraceptive; instead, he was focusing on one aspect of contraception’s impact on society, and that is notable promiscuity. Of course, a lot of people would argue this segment of the population has always existed. So it’s certainly true that not every “waits for marriage.” But even those who “wait for marriage” can still conceive 6 too many children because they, too, had improper notions regarding contraception which, I think, is the whole point here.
It’s absolutism to say “yes, contraception leads to more babies born out of wedlock,” but only inasmuch as it is to say “no, contraception does not make sex more appealing” which is how this issue is usually addressed.